Social connection
These tools help with feeling connected: tracking how connected you feel, working through conflict, sending messages and finding people with shared interests. Some reading pages explain what research says about loneliness, belonging and relationships.
The tools are free to use today and need a free account. “Open in the app” asks you to sign in or create one first.
SOS is an educational tool. It is not a doctor, therapist, financial adviser, lawyer or crisis service. Use it to learn and to keep track of your own life, and check anything important with a qualified person. Read the terms.
Tools that help
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Wellness
Social Connection
Track loneliness and social connection with the UCLA Loneliness Scale.
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Wellness
Conflict Resolution
Science-based conflict navigation — Nonviolent Communication, Gottman Method, Active Listening, and more.
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Community
Messages
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Community
Discover People
See members in the directory and the interests you share.
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Wellness
Relationship Health
Track your closest relationships with Gottman-based daily logs: positive/negative interaction ratios.
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Wellness
Attachment Science
Bowlby & Ainsworth attachment theory.
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Knowledge
Loneliness Science
Cacioppo's evolutionary model of loneliness (adaptive pain signal), loneliness vs. solitude distinction, hypervigilance trap (how loneliness impairs reconnection).
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Goals
Belonging Science
The science of human social connection.
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Wellness
Social Neuroscience
Lieberman's social brain hypothesis (default mode network = social thinking network, MPFC, social pain = physical pain).
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Knowledge
Social Capital
Putnam's bonding/bridging/linking capital, Granovetter's strength of weak ties, structural holes and network brokerage (Burt), Ostrom's trust and commons governance.
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Goals
Relationship Science
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Help answers on this topic
- How do I find people and groups?
- How do I message someone? Who can message me?
- I'm worried about someone else
Guides
- How to Be a Better Listener: Active Listening SkillsHow to be a better listener: what active listening is, the core skills, common mistakes, listening during disagreement or by phone, and a one-week plan.
- Loneliness: What Research Says and What HelpsHow loneliness differs from being alone, how common it is, what research can and cannot show, what programs have been tested, and what may help.
- How to Make Friends as an AdultPractical, low-pressure steps for making friends as an adult: where to meet people, how to follow up and invite, and when to ask for help.
- How to Start a Book ClubA plain guide to starting a book club: group size, finding members, fair book choices, meeting format, ground rules, access and keeping people coming.
More topics
- Physical wellbeing
- Mental wellbeing
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- Personal growth and habits
- Goals and productivity
- Money and financial wellbeing
- Learning and knowledge
- Empowerment and rights
- Cooperation and organizing
- Family and relationships
- Life stages and events
- Meaning, values and purpose
- Safety and support